News about the Scream 4 star flooded media outlets when he and wife Courteney Cox separated after 11 years of marriage in October of 2010. Turning to alcohol to cope with the separation, the journey as been an emotional one for Arquette, but, in a recent interview with PEOPLE, the actor admitted that he is finally ready to get past it.
“I went through a really hard time, and my way of dealing with it was just to blow it all up,” the actor sad. “I did act childish[ly], but at the same time I had to – I was really hurt. It was hard for me to deal with this, but what I had to do ultimately was step back and take a look at myself.”
The childish behaviour Arquette refers to includes drinking, going on the Howard Stern to talk about the separation, and making inappropriate passes at his estranged wife while on a family trip with their 6-year old daughter, Coco, at Disney World.
Though Arquette previously buried his personal issues and avoided them with alcohol abuse, the actor has since given up drinking to focus on tackling his personal problems.
“I’m really getting in touch with my feelings, and trying to process them in a more appropriate way,” Arquette said. “It’s easy to numb them, but it’s more fulfilling to feel them. I don’t have a desire to drink.”
100 days sober, Arquette is finally asking the questions necessary to putting his life back together.
“My big deal is me starting to look at who I really am,” said Arquette. “I was living up to ideals that weren’t necessarily who I am. What am I good with? What makes sense for me? Where’s my true voice? I’m still learning.”