I have been often asked (by men) why women act the way that they do. Why are they so emotional?

The answer is not a simple one, as a woman is complicated. I could go into the whole biological/hormone explanation, but frankly it’s a little bit boring and would go over most people’s heads. In short, women are influenced by the hormones in their bodies (I know ladies- some of you out there don’t want to admit this, but its true). Men notice this the most during the PMS period. Sorry about the pun, I had to go there. However, women aren’t always emotional before their period; it can be during and after.

So basically, men, you are walking on thin ice for most of the time, or until you can figure out when your lady is most sensitive. Good Luck with that!

There are some medications out there that can help alleviate some symptoms, but I highly suggest you NOT be the one to tell her that! You don’t want that kind of trouble coming your way.

So onward to the other aspects of why women are so crazy… ahem… emotional.

Here’s my theory?Now you are welcome to disagree, it is a free country after all. My basis for this theory is drawn from my own experiences as a woman, and by the experiences of my friends who are also women. I am not saying all women feel this way, I just see the same connotations running through the lives of the many women that I know, and I have thought about this topic as well as discussed it with aforementioned women on several occasions.

As little girls, we were encouraged to play with dolls, play “house” and do “girly” things. Even those women who grew up as tomboys still had in the back of their minds the emphasis on family and being whole. Of course being whole meant having a man in your life. It made you someone. It meant you were lovable, good and most of all–special. Growing up, we looked up to the girls who had boyfriends; there was something about them that was better than those of us who didn’t have boyfriends. When we had a boyfriend it was something to make us proud of, like we had accomplished something great.

Let’s take a look at current examples of this? Jennifer Lopez and Britney Spears are prime examples of this type of thought. Now in my humble opinion these women have it all, successful careers, enough money so that they would never want for anything, friends, fans, and probably millions of men dying to meet them. Now, in Jennifer’s case, she was just in a relationship with Ben Affleck, and now she is married to Marc Anthony. Britney is engaged to a man she has known for what 2 -3 months? It seems they are both lost in the haze of romantic love and haven’t thought past it to the next 30 yrs or so.

I’m not dissing the marriage (or the engagement) at all, in fact, I wish them luck and much happiness, but, it made me wonder; why rush into another marriage (or marriage in general) so quickly after just ending a different relationship? Does Jen have the same feelings we do as women? Does Britney feel she has to do something since her knee is injured and she cancelled her tour? Do they feel that they have to have a man on their arm? And I don’t mean just a dating man, but a relationship; because all women know it doesn’t count unless there’s a commitment. This point is driven home by the fact that both of these women have passed go and have gone straight to marriage. Now, they aren’t completely alone in this, the men they are married and engaged to are involved as well. Some people might argue that the men are doing this for the publicity, money or to further their own careers and this may be the case. However, the ones that will ultimately get hurt are Britney and Jen.

I think that women are in a rush to get that commitment from a man to feel safe. If there is no commitment then the relationship hangs in the balance, and that means there is danger that someone else could take “my” man away. Women have been competing with other women forever and it’s sad really. Some men actually encourage this and for that I’d like to pass on a swift kick in the backside.

Men are known for watching each others’ backs in business and personal issues. Women are not always supportive of each other in the same fashion. Again, this same mind set of “needing a man to make me special” sets in. Women will compete for the “best” man in the closest proximity to them, whether it’s in a bar, club, or place of business. Whoever gets the best “most wanted man” is the winner. Of course it’s not put out there in actual words; these are women I am talking about. Women are sneaky, manipulative and quiet, whereas men are more vocal about their intentions. Women know which men are the most desirable and for the most part know that HE is what everyone is going for. Let the contest begin! More on that topic later, back to the issue at hand.

So, what have we covered so far? PMS- check, gotta have a man-check; compete for men with other women- check.
Ok, men listen up!

When your lady pushes you for a commitment, she needs reassurance that you aren’t looking at other women, planning to move on without her.

If a girl asks for your opinion on what she is wearing, always ALWAYS say that she looks beautiful: not ok or fine which would surely make you wait even longer for her to get ready, because now she has to change?again! (she wants to look beautiful for you, so that you won’t look at other women).

Also, please– for your sake, do NOT look at other women when you are out on a date, I know its hard, but please?unless you want to be wearing that red wine on your head. Women are very sensitive about this issue, (going back women competing with other women for a man) and even if it’s a first date there won’t be a second if you are caught gazing at another woman’s? ahem? assets.

Now, I know you have probably heard this one more than once but it bears repeating? if you say you are going to call, you had better call. There is no sense wasting your time and hers by playing games. If she gives you her number and you have no interest in calling her, say nothing! If you must say something, say thank you and leave it at that. Women tend to take your word seriously, so if you say that you will call, they think you really mean it. Got it?? Good!

That’s it for now guys; hopefully I have cleared up a few things for you.

I have only covered a few obstacles in the marathon that is woman, so you’ll have to stay tuned to see what other secrets I will divulge.

If you have a burning question that needs to be answered please email me at askdani@msn.com, and I might put it in my column.
Thanks for reading!
Dani






Related Stories: